Elsa Knows Best

Life is full of ups and downs.  No matter what hand you have been dealt you experience both happiness and hardships.  It is how you react to both of those things that determine your character.  Can you embrace the happiness & face the hardships?

They say what doesn't kill you makes your stronger, and I have had a few people tell me that isn't true.  Yet, I stand behind that statement fully.  I have faced a lot of uphill challenges in my 32 years, and I am still here writing about them, so none of them have killed me.  From each one, I have learned something, which means I have in fact become stronger and smarter. 

I have flaws, many in fact.  And yet, I am able to reflect on just about everything that has happened in my life and used those reflections to teach myself what to continue doing and what not to do.  

The most recent of those challenges however, is one that no matter how much reflection and time passes, I am certain that I will never understand.  As this is a fully public platform, I have chosen to remain vague in an attempt not to slander the name of someone whom my children will love forever.  However, his choices in the recent months have left me somewhat speechless.  Speechless is something that I have never actually experienced before!  I can't make sense of what happened, and that is something I have needed in the past in order to find true closure with any challenge.

Have you ever accepted an apology you never received?

I have.  By accepting an apology from someone who never actually apologized, you can move on.  You acknowledge to yourself that you have been hurt in some way.  You acknowledge to yourself that the person who did the hurting, likely didn't do it maliciously.  You acknowledge that you aren't going to continue to hold it over that person or dwell on it.  And you let it go, Elsa style.

Some things however are just impossible to forgive without an actual apology.  You know that you can't just forget it and move on, especially when it is something that changed your entire world.  Time doesn't necessarily heal all wounds.  But time does make it easier to stomach what happened.

Every day things get a little less "strange" and become a little more "normal".

Every day things get a little less sad.  

Every day you get a little less angry.

Every day you get closer to Letting it Go.

Elsa really did know what she was singing about.

LET IT GO.  LET IT GO.  TURN AWAY & SLAM THE DOOR.

Breathe deep & just let it go.

I promise you will feel relief.  And you will see happiness that is waiting for you!

"Don't let a bad today, ruin an amazing tomorrow."